I always knew I wanted to be a Mom. There were times I didn’t think it would happen, but here I am, a mother with two cute rough and tumble boys. There’s a a saying that the joy of motherhood comes in moments, and I think that’s true. Slowing life down is what I’m all about so I can enjoy those moments more.
Being a mother of young kids isn’t easy. Just today while trying to conduct primary I took Welly, my three year old out at least 5 times. Struggling with him in the hallway, friends would pass by and give me that nod of acknowledgement that they’ve been there too. But even though motherhood can be hard sometimes it is the most worth it, rewarding, selfless, joyful, most personal growth experience ever!
“There is no one perfect way to be a good mother. Each situation is unique. Each mother has different challenges, different skills and abilities, and certainly different children. The choice is different and unique for each mother and each family. Many are able to be “full-time moms,” at least during the most formative years of their children’s lives, and many others would like to be. Some may have to work part-or full-time; some may work at home; some may divide their lives into periods of home and family and work. What matters is that a mother loves her children deeply……and prioritizes them above all else”
I feel totally lucky that I can stay home with my kids. After visiting with my sister Candy in California, I had a big reminder of how unique it is that I can stay at home with the kids. She basically said it is rare and virtually unheard of that a mother can stay home with their kids. Most living situations where she lives requires two incomes to live there. It’s just too expensive otherwise.
I’m very careful these days about what I say yes to. I think it’s way important to not over schedule ourselves. “We live in a world that is filled with options. If we are not careful, we will find every minute jammed with social events, classes, exercise time, book clubs, scrapbooking, Church callings, music, sports, the Internet, and our favorite TV shows”. Recently I had to take a hard look at my priorities and decide “is this taking me away from my family?” even a simple thing like volunteering in the community needed to be careful weighed.
I recently got a new calling and when I accepted I was worried, very worried that it would take me away from home and time away from my kids. My husband is very wise (don’t tell him I said that or else he always think he’s right) but he said that the church is here to make our family better, not our family is here to make the church better. I’m learning that even in church callings I need to prioritize my time.
Elder Ballard talked about this…”may I suggest that the bishopric and the ward council members be especially watchful and considerate of the time and resource demands on young mothers and their families. Know them and be wise in what you ask them to do at this time in their lives. Alma’s counsel to his son Helaman applies to us today: “Behold I say unto you, that by small and simple things are great things brought to pass”
I don’t know why I got on that but anyway, I just hope that if any mothers are reading this they will take a look at their time and prioritize and ask themselves the question, “Is this taking me away from time I could spend with my kids, time away from teaching them, laughing with them, are you missing those joyful moments?”.