It’s hard teaching sharing time on Sunday’s while your three year old is bouncing off his seat, swatting at his teachers, crying or begging you to give him a turn. Not only is it distracting, it can be a little embarrassing. It was actually a bit easier being Welly’s Sunbeam teacher than it is trying to teach all of junior primary while he is in the front row.
Often, if a teacher or leader tries to get him to sit down or sit still, he says, “Don’t touch me!” usually swatting them away in the process. He has a hard time with waiting or taking his turn, he wants to kick, walk around, sit by Mommy, sit by another teacher….(there’s a lot of musical chairs).
It’s so frustrating because you know what he is capable of. I know his little body has the ability to sit still. I know he can be sweet, be kind, be quiet. It never seems to happen in Primary though. I feel bad for his Sunbeam teachers sometimes because I know he is very active and sometimes requires a lot of attention. But they really do a great job! They are the perfect teachers for him.
I’ve really been learning a lesson in motherhood with this calling. I think I need to learn to be more patient with my own kids and discipline them differently. I’ve noticed I react differently when I keep Christ’s example in mind (a lot less spanking happens). When it comes to discipline in our own home I can use the Savior’s example. I’m not perfect, I still “get done” and dish out a few spanks but I’m trying to do better. I’m thankful for this calling, it’s helping me be a better, more patient mother. It’s helping me keep on track and trying harder when it comes to prayer and scripture reading. I’m thankful also for my calling right now because I think it’s given me strength in some hard times.
I know Welly wont always be Mr. Rowdy in Primary. I know that with consistency, love, teaching him at home, and a lot of patience from his teachers that he’ll get there. (fingers crossed).
I really liked this quote; Remember “the worth of souls is great in the sight of God” (D&C 18:10). Criticizing, threatening, or scolding are not effective methods for teaching appropriate behavior and do not exemplify the Savior’s love. Positive comments help children understand that we expect the best from them.-Lds.org
One Sunday when I was especially frustrated with Wellington, Sister Chapman (our awesome secretary) reminded me that Welly could be the Prophet someday. She was so sweet to say that…. It does help to look at your children differently and see them as future missionaries and fathers, Priesthood holders and maybe even the Prophet someday.